Losing friends is hard. Especially if you have treasured them since the day you met. But different circumstances may come to one’s life that became contributary for them to lose friends. Although having a baby is a wonderful, exciting experience as you welcome new addition to your life, it can also mean losing some friends to some mothers.
We might often hear statements like… “I am the only one in my circle of friends who are pregnant or who will have a baby, they are not treating me like before anymore.” “I can’t come with them in their night outs and out-of-town trips anymore, they are treating me differently.” “They like to buy the latest fashion trends, I am purchasing baby supplies in the store.” “They are watching romance movies on Netflix, I am watching birth and pregnancy videos on YouTube.” These circumstances can make an expectant mom, or a new mother to feel left out and treated differently.
Friendships do change as time goes by. But we should also think that what happens in life should not interfere with a true friendship. There are ways to nurture a friendship. And it always takes a lot of work, just like the efforts you exert in maintaining your relationship with your husband, to your children, to your parents and your kins.
When you feel like your losing a friend in the course of your pregnancy or motherhood, here are some to inspire and cheer you up. Although most of these are written by unknown authors, we value its meaning and the credit is not ours, it is always to whom credit is due.
“Want to find out who your true friends are? Have kids.”
“Got pregnant? You’ll find out who your real friends are.”
“You lose friends when you have kids. I’m okay with that. My kids are my world and I don’t need people around that don’t respect that.”
“Sad to think how many so-called friends have made no effort with me since I’ve been pregnant… balls to you all, your loss.”
“If you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing up.”
“It hurts so badly when I think of what you have done. I want to leave you behind, but I don’t have the courage to run.”
“I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions for unnecessary conversations.”
“It is far better to be alone than to be in bad company.” – George Washington
“As you get older, you can energetically feel the difference between people who love you and those who care at their convenience.”
“It’s sad when people you know become people you knew.”
“Sorry, I’d rather be home with my children than out partying on the weekend. No, I’m not boring… That’s just my priority.”
“Pay close attention to the people who don’t clap when you win.”
“Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much from them.”
“Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you don’t see them but they are always there.”
“False friend is like our shadow, keeping close to us while we walk in the sunshine, but leaving us the instant we cross into the shade.” – Christian Nestell Bovee
“Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain – your life will never be the same.” – Catherine Jones
Don’t feel down when you think that you are losing your friends. It is always an advantage to stay positive, especially during the time of pregnancy. Erase those negative vibes. Focus on your pregnancy. A happy mommy makes a happy baby. Here are some quotes to maintain that positive attitude.
“I am proud of many things in my life but nothing beats being a mother.”
“Sometimes your circle decreases in size, but increases in value.”
“You meet people who forget you. You forget the people you meet. But sometimes you meet people you can’t forget and who can’t forget you. Those are friends.”
“Truthfully, being pregnant is changing me as a person. Each day is part of this amazing journey that has completely shifted the focus of my life and made me reevaluate my personal and professional goals.”
“Life gets so much better when you cut the negative bullshit out.”
“Happiness is, your best friend telling you she’s pregnant.”
“You never understand life until it grows inside you.”
“I am sorry I am a crappy friend, I’ve been busy being an awesome mom.”
“I am not telling you that it is going to be easy. I’m telling you, it is going to be worth it.”
“A baby fills a space in your heart that you never knew was empty.”
“When everything feels like an uphill struggle, just think of the view from the top.”
“Happiness is on the way.”
Being busy with your new journey as a mother might confine you in smaller spaces like you were before, but true friendship knows no boundaries. Especially now that communication is a lot easier than it is once before. Text messaging, chats and video calls – these can all be instrumental to maintain the friendship and talk to friends in the comfort of your home. And as you welcome your baby, you have a lot of friends to give that grand, warm welcome. Some can serve as your baby’s extended families, spoiling your kids with gifts and sweets, toys and more.
To get it straight, genuine friendship cannot be altered by anything that may happen in your life, especially when you are expecting your little bundle of joy. True friends can even help and assist you in pregnancy, giving you care that you might need, being an extra hand when you need most. It may only need a little reunion. As you have become a focus on your pregnancy and your kids, maybe they are also busy with their respective lives.