As all the parents, each one of us wants to see her\his kids healthy, clean and in perfect shape. It is why we put them first before anything in life. When we manage to do this, we feel comfortable and satisfied. But sometimes some parents get too much busy so they, unconsciously, ignore this important task, which is to raise your kids as if there is nothing else matters.
Work, marriage and many other factors can intermingle to distract us from the strict way we chose to raise our kids. Here are some things that can interrupt in raising your kids and some tips to balance them.
Being Torn Up Between Job And Home
To give your kids a comfortable life and provide them with what they need you to need work even if your husband’s job is sufficient. Your job will cover extra needs, which will prove your kids a more comfortable life. That is why we feel that we can do better with additional sources of income.
Type Of Mother’s Jobs
There are two types of jobs for mothers: a full-time job and a part-time job. The full-time job is seducing, but it has more disadvantages. It is time-consuming because it usually takes 8 hours a day, which means 8 hours away from home. During this time, your kids are either at school or with the babysitter.
To strike balance between your job and your duty towards your kids when you are a full-time worker, you need to consider these things. You should not feel guilty about being away from home, working. It is a normal thing because all you want is to provide your family with a better life. But you have to, firstly, choose a good babysitter. This way your kids are still your first concern.
Spend the whole time when you come back from work and try to keep positive communication with them so that they feel that you are always there. It is a must to have breakfast and dinner together to keep that sense of family unity.
If you are a part-time job, your absence is barely noticed. You can manage to be at home all the time when your kids are back from school. Even if it does not provide a high salary, your time with family gives you that psychological relief of being always there for your kids. However, it is better to apply for jobs that will consume the time when your kids are similarly at school. This way you always put your kids first beyond all the side circumstances.
Marriage Or Kids First?
This question has been raised many times and the answers are various due to the difference of perspectives and point of view. To put it in its simplest form, Marriage and parenthood are two sheets of the same paper. We cannot talk of one without considering the other. Moreover, they affect each other as they go hand in hand. This means that having happy kids is the fruit of a happy marriage.
To put your kids first is something quite good, but it must be in a wise way which goes in parallel with the good management of your marriage. And the good way to do it is that both parents must agree upon it. They should speak the truth to each other all the time on different levels.
Some practical solutions must take place in the process. For example, you can go out for a romantic dinner with your husband and still you put your kids as a priority. From another point of view, sex should be satisfying for both of you so that you have a psychological balance. Consequently, this will shed a positive reflection on your children. I agree that taking kids with you out most often is necessary, but we still can have time for ourselves without neglecting a side or prevailing another.